Forgiveness and Moving on After Divorce

Forgiveness is a difficult concept when it comes to being intentionally hurt or damaged.  I believe we must forgive in order to heal.  Keep in mind forgiving does not mean trusting again or ignoring what has happened.  Forgiveness also does not mean bringing this person back into your life.  Forgiveness is not for them it is for us because we deserve to move on and live a happy life, and this may be one of the biggest steps in doing just that. 

"Forgiveness is unlocking the door to set someone free 

and realizing you were the prisoner!”

Max Lucado

Below is an excerpt from my upcoming book My Story My Divorce God's Promise-The Journey. 

Forgiveness is Important 

When we have been betrayed, it is normal to be deeply hurt and angry. If we are not careful,

this hurt and anger can turn into bitterness and resentment, thus hampering our healing and

happiness.

I believe that forgiveness is a powerful part of the healing process. Forgiveness does not mean

forgetting or reconciling with the person you need to forgive. Often reconciliation would be

inappropriate.

Forgiveness is not about the person who caused the damage; it is about you. Forgiving takes us

out of the victim role and can be empowering. Forgiving the offender helps us reestablish peace

in our lives and will aid in healing.

I believe it is important to forgive because it allows us to put some of the pain behind us and

begin to move on. Forgiveness can bring peace to our lives. Forgiveness means freedom from

bitterness and anger and turns our eyes toward peace, hope, happiness and joy.

“Forgiveness is the fragrance that the violet sheds on

the heel that has crushed it.”

Mark Twain