Friday, October 30, 2015

Media Musings-Movies Philomena

I have had this movie on my to-watch list for some time now.  One of our patients mentioned what a great movie it was which motivated me to follow through and watch the movie.  I had no idea it was based on a true story.
The story is about an elderly woman who is searching for her son.  When she was a young woman in the 1950's in Ireland she became pregnant out of wedlock.  The church and the people of that time did not support a woman in this situation...they would condemn them. (My question is what about the guy?  Why does he get off scot-free? ) Philomena was disowned by her father and sent to work for an order of nuns in a convent and forced to labor in the Magdalene Laundries. 

Many of the young pregnant girls sent to the convent died in childbirth along with their babies.  Many lost their babies to forced adoptions.  These young girls/woman had no control, they were like slaves with no rights.  This is Philomena's attempt to find her son with the assistance of a BBC correspondent who became aware of her story.

It is sad to me when those who represent the church do not abide by the beliefs on which the church was founded things such as grace, truth, empathy, honesty, love, compassion. Abuse can be seen in church history throughout all time and is still seen today both institutionally and individually. When you think back you can easily see this abuse during the Crusades for instance. The KKK used religion as an excuse to abuse innocent people. The list, I am sure goes on and on. It is probably seen in all religions.

I have talked to many hurt by the harsh treatment they have received from people in the church.  I too have been on the receiving end of negative words by leaders in the church. Words that have brought me to tears. 

(One example would be my husband who was a pastor for nearly 20 years. He abandoned me after 37 years of marriage.  Breaking his vow, not only to me but to God,  as though it meant nothing. He did the opposite of his teachings, including dating married women plus other things that he would have heavily condemned from the pulpit. He was not who he seemed)

Many would say.  Don't you question God?  Why would God allow this to happen?  I don't know why God allows things to happen and yes I do ask him why sometimes.  My guess would be because He gave us free will. 

I need God in my life.  I need his teachings.  They have and continue to help me through difficulties in my life.  I trust God.  Do I trust the church?  Not really.  It is made up of people, some good, some not so good.  One person I know described the church as a hospital with many patients. Am I attending a church now?  No, but I know I need to and I will keep looking. 

I remember learning many years ago that we should not judge God based on those who claimed to be Christians.  My first lesson in that regard was when the Pastor, my father-in-law, was found to be cheating on his wife.  Sound familiar?  Like father like son? Came as a huge shock and disappointment to me as a young Christian.   My father who was a member of this little church actually left the church because of it.  He blamed God for this indiscretion.  He later began watching TV evangelists in his quest for God.  He donated money and then found out this pastor was cheating on his wife too.  Not a good example.  Not a legacy you want to leave behind.  My dad was able to reconnect with God, but it was not through the church.

So what does Philomena have to say about her faith even in the midsts of such abuse of power in her life?

"The story it tells has resonated with people not because it’s some mockery of ideas or institutions that they’re in disagreement with. This is not a rally cry against the church or politics. In fact, despite some of the troubles that befell me as a young girl, I have always maintained a very strong hold on my faith."

Thanks for standing strong in your faith Philomena.
Yours is a legacy to be proud of.
I suggest if you have not watched Philomena or read the book, you should do so.

Sunday, October 25, 2015

Lets do something fun.....Movies- Ghost Town Review

"Only a life lived for others is worth living"
Albert Einstein

I have to admit this is one of my favorite movies.  Yes, it is about ghosts but so much more.
It starts off with the story of a rude, antisocial dentist.  Such an unhappy man.  He seems to have no hope, no purpose, just getting by in life with zero joy.  During a routine hospital procedure he dies.  They bring him back after seven minutes and he seems fine only now he can see dead people.  He sees all the folks that have died and have unfinished business here on earth and thus can't move on.  When they notice Dr. Pincus can see them the push is on to get him to help them on their pursuit to tie up their loose ends

Then of course you have Frank, he is so cute but what a jerk. He is a successful man in business but not in his personal life.  He is a liar, an adulterer, a narcissist, yes a jerk. He has no problem denying and justifying the pain he causes others.  (Personal note: Wait, I know someone like that.)

Gwen was Frank's wife.  Devastated by the pain caused by her husband.  She summed him up with the term..."Disloyal" (Personal note: Wait I know someone like that.) 
 I like her quote 
                                   "We get the one life....what happens matters"

My favorite character is Dr. Prashar.  He is kind and caring. He teaches Dr. Pincus that there is a better way to live his life, caring for and helping others.

I will leave you wondering:
Does Dr. Pincus change?
Does Frank Move on?
Does anyone fall in love?
Gotta watch the movie to find out:-)
Great movie.
I suggest you watch it.  It is a fun flick.
If you watch it let me know what you think.
I will give it a 9.5/10 on my movie enjoyment scale.

Saturday, October 17, 2015

Be Free!

I like this quote I found online in regard to being a survivor of a narcissist...
"The abuse doesn't happen because the victims volunteer for it. 
The abuse happens because the abusers lie, manipulate and speak 
in mixed messages. And out of love and a sense of fairness we 
trust them." Narcissism Book of Quotes
(Be Free:-)


Monday, October 12, 2015

Monday Morning Motivation..He Comes Alongside Us:-)

On Sunday morning, I like to sit down indian style on the couch with my computer in my lap and a cup of coffee in my hand and listen to an online sermon.  This week I decided to listen to a sermon on the Summit Church website.  The scripture for the sermon was found in John 14.  I could easily choose scripture for my life (The Beginning, The Journey, The Joy),  in those words.  

The Beginning
(of the pain/trauma)
"I will not leave you as orphans, I will come to you"
John 14:18
At the beginning of my trauma I guess you could say I felt like an orphan.  The person that swore to love me forever just left.  Leaving me shocked and in a state of despair.  
What a blessing to know that God will not leave us alone in our situation but will come to us.  Remember he is with you no matter what you are going through.

The Journey
"And I will ask the Father and he will give you another counselor to be with you forever"
John 14:16
In the sermon, the counselor is described in many ways.  He inspires us, manifest God's love to us, stands beside us, comes alongside us, directs us to the cross, cries out for us, and empowers us.
These are all things that help us endure difficult times and keep us on the proper path. 

The Joy
"Peace I leave with you, my peace I give you.....
Do not let your hearts be troubled and do not be afraid."
John 14:27
As I walk my new path in life I am finding joy.  I love to spend time with my family and friends.  There is so much I enjoy in this life.  Sometimes I do get fearful and that is when I return to God's word and remind myself that I should not be troubled or afraid because He comes alongside me and helps me always.
Remember He is with you.
Happy Monday!