Monday, July 31, 2017

Morning Motivation "God is There"



But I will sing of your strength, in the morning I will sing of your love; for you are my fortress, my refuge in times of trouble.
Psalm 59:16

In the morning, Lord, you hear my voice; in the morning I lay my requests before you and wait expectantly.
Psalm 5:3





When There Seems to be Nothing There is God


When you are happy God is there.
When you feel lonely  God is there.
When you are joyful God is there.
When your heart is broken God is there.
Where there is hope God is there.
When you don't know which road to take God is there.
Every step you take God is there.
He is our one constant in this life.
Thank you God!
KathieyV

Monday, July 24, 2017

Quote from my book, My Story My Divorce God’s Promise


Friday, July 14, 2017

My Thoughts on “24 Ridiculous Divorce Lies…” by Dr. Karen Finn

My Thoughts on “24 Ridiculous Divorce Lies…” by Dr. Karen Finn

As I was reading her thoughts I decided to choose 3 “lies” that I could relate to…
1-“It takes one year for every four years of marriage to get over your divorce” Karen Finn
I am so glad that this is a lie.  I was married for 37 years.  That means it would take me nearly ten years to recover.  It has been four years since my husband left.  I am doing much better.  Am I completely recovered?  No.  I am over him but not the betrayal.  That will take a bit more time, at least for me.  I think everyone’s journey is different.
2-“You’ll get over your divorce quicker if you just avoid thinking about it.” Karen Finn
In this section, Karen mentions health problems, anorexia, and anxiety attacks.  Yes, I struggled with all of the above in the beginning.   The emotional pain was so intense that I did have issues with anxiety and depression, which I never had in the past.  One of Karen’s “24 lies about divorce” is that everyone who goes through a divorce will have depression.  Luckily that is not true.  Although, I am one who now knows how terrible depression is.  The upside is that I can now relate to folks, on some level, who struggle with depression.
I believe you do have to think your divorce and do your best to deal with it.  I think to move on you have to be honest with yourself and others.  For me, I hope I can use my experience to help people on the same path.  That is why I share my story to let people know they are not alone.
3- “There is something wrong with you if you feel like part of you died when your marriage ended” Karen Finn
I agree with Karen this is an absolute lie.  When you have been betrayed by the one that promised you and God that he would love you forever, it is like part of you died.  Here is my quote…
“Divorce is like a death but with intent”  KathieyV
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Please check out the rest of Karens list of “24 Ridiculous Divorce Lies..” Check out her profile site on Your Tango.
Thank you Karen for your insight.  You are helping many of us as we navagate our new lives.  I am excited to move on to a better and happier life:-)

Tuesday, July 11, 2017

Monday Morning Motivation…”Praying through Our Tears” from GuidePosts Magazine

Post from The Beginning…2013
Another rough week.  I have learned that my situation can
throw you into depression and that is what has seemed
to have happened to me.
I have had sorrow, I have sadness, and I have had disappointment,
but depression is an entirely different creature.  It gives me a greater
respect for people living with this awful condition.
I never realized an acute event could produce it.
Anyway….I was reading GuidePosts Magazine online and
came across a quote from Julia Attaway that seemed to fit me…
“I’ve had a week straight out of Romans 8:26: “We do not know 
what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes 
for us through wordless groans.” There are times the heart 
hurts so much it is mute. 
Even so, I can still offer God what I have: my tears.
I can ask him to use my tears to water the seed of my faith, 
so that I grow closer to Christ instead of drawing away.
I can ask him to use my tears for good: to wash away 
someone else’s suffering.I can ask him to unite 
my tears to those that Jesus cried (John 11:25), 
to make me more like him.And finally, when suffering 
silences me, I can trust that the Lord will ask others to 
pray for me and my family and all who are hurting.”     
Amen Julia!
Seeing beauty through the pain and tears….
My weekend with my family…











If you are going though a difficult time in your life,  take baby steps.
 One foot in front of the other and try to lean on God.
If you can’t form the words to pray remember the
Holy Spirit will pray on your behalf.  I am so thankful for that:-)

Friday, July 7, 2017

The Beginning..”As Long as I can do it.”


As one part of my series titled “The Beginning”,  I will be going back to old posts from the beginning of my divorce trauma. This post was written July 2013, about a month after I found out my husbands plans to break his vow to me and to God.
Words of wisdom and encouragement….”As long as you can, do it.”
It has been an awful five weeks. I have not been myself since my husband decided to leave me. Utterly devastating. I was reading Guideposts Magazine this week. They have a section called “The Up Side, Quotes from Today’s Positive Thinkers.” I liked the quote from Robert Redford…
“The way I deal with arthritis is to keep moving. As long as you can play hard tennis, as long as you can ski or ride a horse—all kinds of things can come your way. As long as you can, do it.”....Robert Redford
His challenge seems to be his arthritis. Mine is different. Mine is a looming unwanted and unnecessary divorce. Both painful in their own way. Well, I took Roberts advice and decided to “do it.” I went and heard old friends as they sang at an Irish Pub last night. Today I got up and went to a local Zumba class. I came home and made banana bread and watched a movie. This weekend I am going to church and a local comedy event. Sometimes it is hard to go through the motions of what used to bring me joy, but I am trying.
I don’t know the pain of your situation. I do suggest even in your pain that you reach out to friends and hold tightly to your faith. Get out and do something fun. 
God Bless.
KathieyV

Wednesday, July 5, 2017

Beware the Narcissist, Quotes from Pinterest.

If you do any reading about divorce, you will inevitably come across the word “Narcissism.”  I don’t believe that it is only the narcissist that makes decisions that destroy families but it seems that in the world of lies and infidelity that narcissism most definitely plays a part.
I never really understood the meaning of Narcissism.  There was no mention in primary or secondary school.  I don’t remember mention of it in my psych classes in nursing school.  How can we protect ourselves from something we don’t know or understand?  With that in mind, I will be doing a series of quotes from Pinterest to help us all better understand and protect ourselves from the narcissist.
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166865d34d46fe41ce94fd253ba7b39f“Listen to that still small voice and don’t discredit your gut instinct.
More often than not it is a truthful warning.”
KathieyV

Monday, July 3, 2017

Monday Morning Motivation...Walk by the Spirit..


This week I listened to a sermon by Curtis Andrusko who was speaking at The Summit Church.  It was about the Fruit of the Spirit.  This is how I interpreted his message...
I guess there is a way to define us and our walk with or without Christ.  We can be directed by our faith or by our "fleshly" desires.  I have many desires.  I want to travel, I want to enjoy my family, I want to live a safe and secure life.  I want to be happy. Nothing wrong with that.  What Curtis was talking about was..





I am sure all of us have gone the path of at least some of these things.  Thank God that we can find our way back through God's Grace.  I can safely say I can't remember my last orgie...
never happened. :-) Most of the things on the list don't apply to me.  But, I do get angry, mostly at the one who broke vows to me and to God and divided our family.  It is now part of a very painful legacy we leave our children and grandchildren.  This is a huge struggle for me.  I have to pray about it on a daily basis and give it to God.  I don't want that anger to direct my life.  It is all part of a very long healing process.
 If we are walking with God, still imperfect but trying, the fruit of the spirit should be evident...
There is no way we can do this on our own not matter how hard we try.  We can't do it, but with God's help we can.
"You can't do it but He can"
Curtis Andrusko

"If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit"
Galatians 5:25
I have faith that God can take us at our worst and make our lives a testimony for Him.  I pray that the Holy Spirit leads my life and redirects me when I need to take a different path.  I give it all to you God.
Happy Monday Everyone!
KathieyV:-)