Monday, November 20, 2017

Morning Motivation from Corrie ten Boom

I am extremely thankful for God's promises.  My favorite is "I will never leave you or forsake you."
Thank you God!
Have a wonderful Thanksgiving week.

Friday, November 17, 2017

Beware the Narcissist...Quotes From Pinterest

I never really understood the meaning of Narcissism.  There was no mention in primary or secondary school.  I don’t remember mention of it in my psych classes in nursing school.  How can we protect ourselves from something we don’t know or understand?  With that in mind, I will be doing a series of quotes from Pinterest to help us all better understand and protect ourselves from the narcissist.
 Beware the Narcissist, the Beginning The Journey The Joy
The Beginning...

The Journey...

The Joy...
(Not all divorces are a product of a narcissist but many are, and that is why I am doing this series)
Always remember God's promise.  "I will never leave you or forsake you."
Thank you God!

Monday, November 13, 2017

Monday Motivation "Where Is God In The Storm" Bishop T D Jakes

I came across this "snippet" on Youtube. Where is God in the Storm?
We have all been through or are going through some manner of a life storm.  The list of potential problems and challenges that we face is seemingly endless.  Please take the time to listen to this short excerpt from one of Bishop Jakes's sermons on just where to find  God in our storms.  I found it to be most encouraging.

Pastor Jakes says that "you cannot see in a storm, that is why He told you to walk by faith and not by sight."  He explains that God lives in trouble, He lives in the storm, and that he is with us in the storm.
"God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble." Psalm 46:1

When you go through deep waters, I will be with you.
When you go through rivers of difficulty, you will not drown.
When you walk through the fire of oppression,
    you will not be burned up;the flames will not consume you.
Isaiah 43:2
Thank You God!

Thursday, November 9, 2017

Divorce in the News-Alimony and Tax Deductions

News FlashDivorce is Genetic?I don't believe it!-2
As I understand it, a new tax law is about to be introduced.  As it stands now, and in my case, my Ex gets to claim his alimony as a tax deduction.  That never seemed fair to me.  I have to pay taxes on the alimony I receive, and he gets a benefit for paying alimony.  Wait a minute there is something wrong here!  My husband leaves me thus taking away my security, breaking a multitude of promises to God and me, damaging my family, and then he is rewarded for this breach of contract with a very nice tax break.  This is a miscarriage of justice in my opinion.  If this proposed law goes through it will go into effect at the end of this year and will include future alimony rulings.  The past judgments for alimony payments will not be included, and the slackers of the past can skip away with their high tax deductions.  Whoever said life was fair?
There is concern that this could affect the alimony payout amounts.  The worry is that the courts would consider the amount to be paid out along with the taxes that are no longer deductible thus decreasing the payout amount to protect the payor.  Well, that is not fair either.  The one who created the problem needs to pay out what he owes the one he or she has harmed.  I don’t think anyone worried that I would be paying taxes on the monies I would receive.  I don’t remember taxes on alimony ever mentioned in any of our legal proceedings.
So what is my hope with this new law, if it passes?  I hope the ones who cause damage to others do not continue to be rewarded for their behavior with huge tax breaks.  I hope the ones that have been lied to and harmed through the breach of marital contract get the money they deserve.  I wish that the government would not grandfather anyone in, but as my mom used to say “if wishes were horses beggars would ride.”
I would love to know your thoughts on this.

Wednesday, November 8, 2017

Spiritual Short Story. The Carrot The Egg The Coffee

I found this short story on a site called Spiritual Short Stories. The title of the story and the author are unknown.  As I read the story,  I thought of myself and others that have experienced pain and despair caused by an unwanted and unnecessary divorce.    
The Story
A young woman went to her grandmother and told her about her life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting and struggling. It seemed as one problem was solved, a new one would pop up.
Her grandmother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire, and soon the pots came to boil. In the first pot she placed carrots, in the second she placed eggs, and in the last she placed ground coffee beans. She let them sit and boil; without saying a word. In about twenty minutes she turned off the burners. She fished the carrots out and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the eggs out and placed them in a bowl. Then she ladled the coffee out and placed it in a bowl.
Turning to her granddaughter, she asked, “Tell me what you see.”
“Carrots, eggs, and coffee,” she replied. Her grandmother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft. The grandmother then asked the granddaughter to take an egg and break it. After pulling off the shell, she observed the hard boiled egg. Finally, the grandmother asked the granddaughter to sip the coffee. The granddaughter smiled as she tasted its rich aroma then asked, 
“What does it mean, grandmother?”
Her grandmother explained that each of these objects had faced the same adversity: boiling water. Each reacted differently. The carrot went in strong, hard, and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak. The egg had been fragile. Its thin outer shell had protected its liquid interior, but after sitting through the boiling water, its inside became hardened. The ground coffee beans were unique, however. After they were in the boiling water, they had changed the water.
“Which are you?” she asked her granddaughter. 
My View on the Story
So, which am I?  Initially, I was the carrot.  I was so hurt and confused that I wanted to give up.  I thought life was not worth living; the pain was too intense.  
I can see how you could become hardened like the egg.  You harden yourself to protect yourself and then you can easily become bitter.  I may have built a few walls, and I do protect myself from the one who caused me and my family damage but I am not bitter, and I fight hard not to be.  
I would love to be like coffee.  I am not thankful for the pain, but I am glad that I am in a better place.  My marriage was such a lie but I did not see it until I was in a position to look from afar.  I now am in a place of peace not of turmoil, I am in a position to help others, and I have a family that I love and enjoy.  
Dear Lord help me to rely on your strength and not grow weak.  Help me to be wise but not bitter.  Lord help me to be like "coffee" and to change the things around me for the best. 
Thank you, God,
How do you see yourself.  Are you the carrot, the egg, or the coffee or a combination of the three?

Monday, November 6, 2017

Morning Motivation, How Can I Survive the Pain of Divorce? | Jason Gray

"The initiative against despair is to rise and do the next thing".
Oswald Chambers
We may not understand why some things happen in our lives.  Some of these things may seem insurmountable but guess what.  God still has a purpose for us, and we can "rise and do the next thing."

 For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Jeremiah 29:11 (NIV)
Thank You God!

Friday, November 3, 2017

Quote Day... "My Story My Divorce God's Promise, The Beginning" by KathieyV

This is quote from my book, "My Story My Divorce God's Promise".  You can check it out by hitting the link below.  I would be grateful if you would buy the book and then let me know what you think.  I would love to hear your story.
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