Tuesday, April 11, 2017

The Territorial Goose and A Life Lesson

We saw him in the distance. His head held high not only with confidence but conviction. He would stand his ground.  Yes, it was a territorial goose.  I have encountered them on many occasions, but this one looked particularly determined.
Brodie and I stopped and just looked at him.  We had choices.  We could run with our tail, well at least Brodie's, between our legs.  We could continue our predetermined course and confront the situation, but the goose was already in the "this is my war, and I am going to win it" posture.  If you have been around these creatures, I know you understand.  We could retreat, go back the way we came, missing out on our planned adventure.  We could avoid.  Just walk across the street and continue our journey from there.  We considered our options.  Do we run?  No, he was not chasing us.  Do we confront, stand our ground and continue on our path just to make the point that we can?  No, there was a very nice sidewalk just across the street.  Do we retreat?  No, that would ruin all of our plans. Do we avoid?  Yes, we decided to avoid.  Why?  Because it was not that big of a deal, not worth the conflict.
So how can I apply this to my life?  How can this encounter with a territorial goose be an example as to how I should respond in my life situation, or yours as we encounter separation and divorce?
We have to deal with a difficult situation or person. What do we do?  It would greatly depend on each situation.  The pros and the cons have to addressed before any action. Let's look at some options.
Should we run away?  In some situations, I would say yes if there is danger involved.  With an abusive spouse, I would say run far and fast.
Should we confront?  Sometimes we need to.  When someone lies about you or life events, when someone attempts to destroy your life and your future I think we have to respond. Yes, sometimes we need to confront even we don't feel like it.   I believe we will know when to cross those lines.
Do we retreat, give up, change our life plans?  For me to retreat is fine as long as it does not destroy my life goals.  Do not retreat if in any way it harms you or the ones you love.
Should we avoid?  I think some conflict is wise to avoid.  If someone is posturing and it serves no purpose other then to build them up, I would say just avoid the conflict.  They usually just want attention anyway.  No need to give it.
So if you come across an aggressive goose, or ex, consider your options carefully.  And of course pray for direction.
Just my opinion. 
God Bless!

Monday, April 3, 2017

Morning Motivation...God's Power Works in Our Weakness..2 Corinthians 12:9

"Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me."

2 Corinthians 12:9 NLT

"God wants His grace to be completed in your weakness. You never really experience the grace unless you see the need for it—and even that realization comes by grace. The power of Jesus' grace is not fully seen until weakness is fully acknowledged. The moment you are overwhelmed with your absolute helplessness is the moment you are ready to hear Jesus say, I’m all the grace you need."
Quote above by Walk in the Word with James MacDonald
Weakness, that is what many of us feel when faced with an unwanted separation and pending divorce.  The weakness found in the hurt, the fear, and the confusion.  The weakness found in the unknown, the betrayal, the lies, the future.  I was, as James MacDonald puts it, "overwhelmed with absolute helplessness."  I prayed more than I have ever prayed.  I sought Gods comfort more than I ever had. I become more familiar with his word, and it became more personal than ever before.  
Would I say I am completely back to normal nearly four years away from the beginning of the trauma?  The answer would have to be "not yet but still improving."  For me, the "boosting in our weakness" translates into the fact that we can use our experience to help others on the same path.  To show others that God's grace will guide them through their toughest and weakest of times.  I believe if we hide our experience and fail to "boast" of God's help, we miss an opportunity and our pain will be wasted.  I don't want that.  I want to use my pain to encourage others.
Thank you for your love and grace, God.  
And for your promise "I will never leave you or forsake you.

Monday, March 27, 2017

Morning Motivation...He Prayed for Us, John 17:20

I know God loves us.  I know he cares about us.  But never realized that Jesus prayed for us.  He did.  He prayed for us in the Garden of Gethsemane.  Here are a couple of versions from John 17:20.

"Neither for these alone do I pray [it is not for their sake only that I make this request], but also for all those who will ever come to believe in (trust in, cling to, rely on)
 Me through their word and teaching."    

“I pray not only for these, but also for those who believe in me through their word." 

"I am not praying for these alone but also for the future believers 
who will come to me because of the testimony of these." 

He prayed not only for his followers at this time but also for us that would follow, future believers.  Not only did he think about and pray for us but he did so as he was coming up on the most difficult time in his human existence.

Thank you, Jesus, for your love for us even in the dark times.  Help me see past my difficulties to care for those around me.  Amen.


Monday, March 20, 2017

Inspiration Through the Music. My Sunday Song by MercyMe - "Even If"

Nothing touches me more then Christian music.  This week one of my favorite songs is "Even If" by Mercy me.  I like to look over song lyrics and place them in my category of The Beginning of my trauma, The Journey, finding myself again, and The Joy, that can still be found after an intense hurt. Listen to the song, it is inspirational and will touch your heart if you find yourself damaged by someone in your life.
The Beginning

"They say sometimes you win some
Sometimes you lose some
And right now, right now I'm losing bad"

"They say it only takes a little faith
To move a mountain
Well good thing
A little faith is all I have, right now"

The Journey

"But God, when You choose
To leave mountains unmovable
Oh give me the strength to be able to sing
It is well with my soul"

The Joy
"I know You're able and I know You can
Save through the fire with Your mighty hand
But even if You don't
My hope is You alone
I know the sorrow, and I know the hurt
Would all go away if You'd just say the word
But even if You don't
My hope is You alone
It is well with my soul
It is well, it is well with my soul"

Thank you God!

Tuesday, March 14, 2017

Weekly Quote from Pinterest

I found this quote and photo on Pinterest.  The statement is true.  Every day is not "good" in fact the day may be horrible.  There are times you just cannot see the positive because of the pain, but it is there.  Let's make an attempt to see good every day on our journey.    I don't know what you have to endure in your life, but God does.  Remember his promise.  I will never leave you or forsake you.
Thank you God:-)
Take a moment to list some of the good in your life....
Holding my 6 month old grand baby while she sleeps.  So beautiful, so peaceful.
My dog who is always by my side....He is sleeping at my feet right now:-)
Friends who never give up on you even in your most difficult times.
The chill in the air and the warm fireplace.
The rain today as it waters the trees and grass.
Please leave me a reply as to the good you are finding today in your world.
God Bless You!

Friday, March 10, 2017

Ways to De-Stress....Journaling

I came across and article several weeks ago,  100 ways to De-Stress by Karen Carnabucci. I posted on her first suggestion, using chocolate to destress, Chocolate Meditation.  Can't go wrong with chocolate:-) 
Karen's second suggestion is to Journal.  I do journal but not consistently.  I found it especially helpful when my ex first left.  Through writing, I was able to find pieces of my self that were shattered.  I am still finding the pieces  today, nearly 4 years later. 
I went online to find a few benefits of journaling and believe me there are many.  If click on any of the links below you will find more info...

Positive Effects of Journaling.
  • Reduce stress. Writing about anger, sadness and other painful emotions helps to release the intensity of these feelings. By doing so you will feel calmer and better able to stay in the present. Psych Central
  • Healing
    Expressive writing is a route to healing — emotionally, physically, and psychologically. Dr. James Pennebaker, author of  Writing to Heal has seen improved immune function in participants of writing exercises. Stress often comes from emotional blockages, and overthinking hypotheticals. He explains, “When we translate an experience into language we essentially make the experience graspable.” And in doing so, you free yourself from mentally being tangled in traumas.  Huff Post

    Lower Blood Pressure  Because journaling lowers stress and anxiety, it can help manage high blood pressure. Dr. James Pennebaker claims that journaling strengthens T-lymphocytes, immune cells that fluctuate with stress and anxiety. Strengthening them boosts your immune system and helps keep your blood pressure low. Health and Fitness Revolution

    Journals help you have a better connection with your values, emotions, and goals By journal writing about what you believe in, why you believe it, how you feel, and what your goals are, you better understand your relationships to those things. This is because you must sort through the mental clutter and provide details on why you do what you do and feel what you feel.  Life Hack

     Keeping a journal requires us to write out our goals. The importance of committing our desires to paper cannot be overstated. It is a simple process, but it pays great dividends. Writing out our goals provides the opportunity to articulate them clearly and makes their achievement appear closer.Becoming Minimalist
(One of the suggestions I found was to find a quiet place to journal with no distractions.  As you will see in the above photo I had a distraction.  Thats ok, its only Brodie:-)

Just how do you journal?  Check out this site for details on how to journal...Journaling Saves Lives

For me it is just to sit down and write.
So how do I sum up journaling?  For me, it is a release of my thoughts and emotions.  It does confirm my faith and help me set up goals.  I find it to be not only the act of writing but I direct most of my writing to God so for me it is an act of worship.
In my opinion, you should give it a try.  If you have trouble coming up with how to begin, I suggest you get a journal that prompts you.  Right now I am using a devotional journal...
My suggestion for today.  Get out a pen and paper and grab a bar of chocolate.  Hopefully it will help decrease some of your stress.  I know if you are going through the pain of separation and divorce that the stress is unbearable at times.  Don't give up.  Remember God's promise.  "I will never leave you or forsake you".
God Bless