Dating-Meeting Someone for the First Time-The Perfect Coffee Date.

The world of dating has changed over the years. When I was a teen, you would meet someone at school or church, and the guy would ask you out for a date. You would say yes or no to the invitation. It was pretty cut and dry. Things have significantly changed since then. Many people still meet at social events, but a large majority find themselves on dating sites.  

For those of us entering the dating game after decades of marriage, it is a confusing world.  We may find ourselves saying, "What dating site should I choose?" "How do I stay safe?" and the list of questions continues for miles.  

I have decided to examine the world of dating and see what advice people who have experience in online dating can give to those of us who know little about it. I have come across several articles on what people think are nice ways to meet someone you have never met for a first date.  Many suggest a coffee date.

Many ways have been suggested for a first date when using a dating site. One way to get to know someone is by meeting for a coffee date. 

A few advantages of meeting for a coffee date...

• It is a low-cost date.
• Meeting face-to-face for coffee fosters conversation.
• If you are uncomfortable, it is easy to leave.
• You can build trust in a safe space.
• It is a public venue, so it is safer than meeting alone somewhere.

A few possible disadvantages...

• It may be difficult to hold a conversation depending on the shop's noise level.
• Since you are seated across from one another, it may feel like an interview rather than a date.
• Dreaded coffee breath.

Ways to prepare for your coffee date...

• Clarify whether your date is a romantic date or just a meet and greet.
• Check out the venue before you go and make sure it is the right fit for you in terms of location, aesthetics, and safety.
• Wear something casual, but that looks nice.  Wear something you feel comfortable in.
• Plan to stay about an hour.  If you hit it off, you can always stay longer.
• Try to sit diagonally from each other.  It is less formal then face to face.
• Put your phone away for your date.  If, for some reason, you are uncomfortable, by all means, pull out your phone if you need to.
• The conversation should not be one-sided.  
• If you get along well and you feel safe, you can always move the date somewhere else. You could go somewhere and take a walk, or you could go out for a meal.
• Plan to arrive on time.

Stay safe and have fun!

KathieyV