Sunday, June 28, 2015

Sunday Song "Good Morning"...The Journey and The Joy

Getting up in the morning can be difficult when you have deep struggles in your life.  It's songs like these that can lift your spirit and change your perspective.  I love this song by Mandisa.  Zumba is even mentioned in the lyrics so you know its a happy song.

          ..... Chorus lyrics....
"It's a good morning!  Wake up to a brand new day
This morning,  I'm stepping, stepping on my way
Good morning,  You give me strength,  you give me just what I need
And I can feel the hope that's rising up in me.
It's a good morning" 

Check out this song.  It will brighten your day.
Happy Sunday

Thursday, June 25, 2015

My Story My Divorce...The Pain...Deposition Continued....

I am not going to mention this persons name in order to protect her.  If there was an affair, which I had suspected for years and which was confirmed to me by someone close to the situation, I blame Joe far more then her.  Although she is a very intelligent person and should have known better, he was in a position of authority and I believe owes this person, her family, me, and God an apology for all the damage caused.  I do get the feeling that X feels he is above any need for apology to God or anyone else and that is sad.  Life is short and judgement comes to all of us.
I will call her Grace because she is a nice person and I care deeply for her and her family.  She is an example of a person that is able to live her life for God, in spite of possibly damaging choices, and I respect that.

Deposition continued, Page 11-14 ....

JA (My attorney):   "Was it in 2008 that she asked you if you wanted a divorce?"

 X (Joe Voshell):  "You know, I can't remember the year"

JA:  "Did it have anything to do with Grace?"

Banter back and forth about the 5th amendment between attorneys

JA:   "At that time did it have anything to do with a woman named Grace?"

Solomon (Joe's attorney):   "Are you going to take the 5th?"

X:   "Sure, Sure"

Solomon: "Take the 5th amendment."

X: "Ok I will take the 5th amendment on that"

More banter about the 5th between the attorneys 

JA:  "Who was Grace?"

X:  "I claim my right to remain silent under the Fifth Amendment"

JA:  "Even telling me who she was?"

X:    "Yes"
Interesting.  He worked with Grace for nearly 20 years and suddenly did not know her.  If there was no guilt the questions could have easily and honestly been answered.  In my opinion there is no need to plead the 5th if there is nothing to hide. Extremely sad!

JA:  "Ok, was Grace an employee there at some point in your tenure?"

X:  "I claim my right to remain silent".

JA:  "And was there a concern raised by some of the church leadership with regard to you and Grace    being in your study for long periods of time?"

X: "I claim my right to remain silent".

JA: "and did your study initially have a solid wooden door?"

Solomon: "Plead the Fifth"

X:  "I claim my right to remain silent".

JA: "And did the church in fact come and change out that door from a wooden door to a door that had a partial glass insert in it so that, you know, you would be visible?"

X: "That was my decision.  I wanted all the doors to have that"

JA: "Okay, you made that decision?"

X: "Yes"

JA: "And the church went along with it?"

X: "Sure"

JA:   "Were you approached by any membership of the church expressing concern about your relationship with Grace?"

X: "I claim my right to remain silent"

JA: "Do you know Randy H.?"

X: "I claim my right to remain silent".

JA: "To whether or not you know Randy H.?  How about T.M. (Todd)?"

X: "I claim my right to remain silent"
Ok, I need to look for God's beauty now....

That makes me feel better:-)
If you are going through a similar situation just hang on.  God is with you and loves you.  
Just look around and you will see God's beauty even in the pain.
God bless!

Sunday, June 21, 2015

Father's Day Legacy

“The greatest legacy one can pass on to one’s children and grandchildren is not money or other material things accumulated in one’s life, but rather a legacy of character and faith”.
Billy Graham

Today is Father’s day and I find myself thinking about how important character is in the legacy our Fathers leave behind. Just what is character?  Wikipedia describes it this way, “The concept of character can imply a variety of attributes including the existence or lack of  virtues such as empathy, courage, fortitude, honesty, and loyalty or of good behaviors or habits.”
I was listening to a sermon recently on adultery.  I have spoken to many women going through separation and divorce and most of these cases involve infidelity.  A mistake is one thing but when it is repeated over and over, which is the majority of the time, it is no longer a mistake but a character flaw.  
Here is what the pastor said happens in the wake of adultery
*It causes untold hurt to the wife (or husband)
*It causes confusion to the children (regardless of their ages)
*It enables the laughter of those who disrespect God 
(gives atheists reason to further doubt the existence of God)
*It greaves the heart of God

“But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience,
kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self control”
Galatians 5:22-23a

Dear Lord, we all leave a legacy of some type behind.  Please help us, in all of our imperfections, to leave a legacy to be proud of.  Not in the money we make or the things we own but in what matters, love for others and service to you.  Amen

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Monday Morning Motivation..."The Work He Will Give Us To Do" The Journey

"Today I know that such memories are the key not to the past, but to the future.  I know that the experiences of our lives, when we let God use them, become the mysterious 
and perfect preparation for the work he will give us to do."
Corrie Ten Boom

Life is not always easy.  There are many ups and downs,  highs and lows,  joys and sorrows. We are bombarded with surprises both good and bad.  I guess all the events in our lives are our teachers.  The things that tend to alter our lives can lead us to grow and thrive as Christians.  Some of the events can cause us to falter and to fear, but through prayer and trust in God we can regain our footing, grow in faith, and hopefully help others on this never dull journey we call life.

"And we know that for those who love God all things work together for good, for those who are called according to his purpose"
Romans 8:28

Dear Lord, sometimes it is hard to thank you for the difficult experiences of our lives, but I am trying.  I do thank you for what you have taught me through these life events.  Help me to take what I have learned and continue to grow in my faith.  Please guide me to help others on a journey similar to mine.  Thank you for taking the bad and working it out for good.  Amen