Monday, February 20, 2017

Morning Motivation...He Directs our Path

I love to travel.  I love adventures.  I love the turquoise waters of the Caribbean, the trails in the mountains of NC, feeling the cool breeze during a bike ride near the beach.  I have a five yr old grandson, and we go on adventures.  We have been to museums, the zoo, the park, the ocean and there are many other excursions that I am planning.  My dog Brodie and I love to go on walking adventures together.
It would be exciting if life's journeys would take us to exotic beaches, towering snowcapped mountains, and beautiful cathedrals.  Wouldn't that be great?  Yes, we can make some of those things happen, and I hope to. But, sometimes life's journeys are less than joyous.  Life events such as death, illness, and in my case, divorce.  The pain can be devastating.   In these times we call out to God.
Lord, please wrap your arms around us.  Give us your peace, joy, and comfort no matter what adventure we find ourselves on.  Please direct our path and help us to trust your direction.  Help us to praise you in this amazing adventure we call life.
I love you Lord and look forward to our travels together:-)

"I trust in the Lord with all my heart and lean not on my own understanding. In all my ways I acknowledge Him and He directs my paths." (Proverbs 3:5-6)

Thursday, February 9, 2017

I am Divorced...Realization of a Dream Destroyed

Divorce, Realization of a Dream Destroyed.
Well today,  Feb 9 2017,  I am officially divorced.  So how do I feel on this impactful day?  I will try to verbalize it...

Did I ever in a million years predict that I would be divorced?  No!
Did I choose to break a vow to someone I loved, or did love, or a vow to God?  No!
Did I ever want to divide my family?  No!
Did I ever want to put my children in in a position for an increased chance of divorce, what statically happens with divorced families?  No!
Did I ever want to field questions from my grandchildren as to why they have multiple grandparents.  No!
Did I want my children and grandchildren to say it is ok to throw a family member away anytime they want just because they are tired of them?  No!

Did I want to fulfill my vow to God and to my husband?  Yes!
Did I want to have children that could look at their parents and see love and commitment?  Yes!
Did I want children that could look to their parents as an example of imperfect people trying their best to fulfill God's plan and through that example believe that a commitment to God and to each other is important?  Yes!
Did I want to have grandchildren that could say that their grandparents took their vow to God and each other seriously.  That family was important and thus find some stability in that family bond?  Yes!
Did I want to retire with my husband and enjoy trips and wonderful times with my family!  Yes!

What now?

I will always be honest. Ask me anything.  I invite your questions.
I will move on to hopefully help others who have been betrayed.
I will love my girls and my grandchildren with all my heart.
I will continue to hold tightly to God knowing that he is our only true constant in this life.
I will remind myself of God's promise..."I will never leave you or forsake you"
Thank you God!

Friday, February 3, 2017

10 Things Every Woman Going Through a Divorce Wants to Hear from Huff Post

I was reading an article from Huff Post....10 Things Every Woman Going Through a Divorce Wants to Hear.  I know that before my experience with separation and divorce I had no clue as to the extent of the pain.   I think my reply to a woman who was going through this would have been "I am so sorry to hear that" and I would give her a hug and go on my way not realizing just how lost this person could feel.  I know much better now.  I know this is a pain that does not go away quickly, if ever,  but it does get easier.  In the early days and even beyond what do we want to hear?  As I looked over her list I picked a few that I feel could be extremely helpful.

"You know I have your back"  
The Stir

It is so important to know that there is someone that will stand by you especially when the one you gave your life to just dropped you like a hot potato.

"This sucks"  
The Stir

The reassurance that someone realizes this is not just scrape it is a deep wound. 

"What do you need?"  
The Stir
Believe me, in the heat of the devastation you do not know what you need.  This one question can help you start to think about what you do need and hopefully lead you to steps to meet those needs.

These are just a few of the things listed in this article that I could relate to.
If your friend or family member is going though this just know the pain they are in is deep and unfathomable to those who have not experienced it.  Please give them lots of hugs, love, and support.
If you are in this situation don't give up.  Reach out to your friends and family.  Take care of yourself as much as you can and lean on your faith.
Always remember God's promise.  "I will never leave you or forsake you".  
Thank you God!