Tuesday, July 28, 2015

"Because the Dawn Has Come". In memory of Rose Voshell "Mom"

"Death is not extinguishing the light; it is putting out the lamp because the dawn has come."
Rabindranath Tagore























A very dear lady who used to be part of my family died this past weekend.  As I was enjoying the beautiful sunset she was going home to God.  As beautiful as the sunset was I believe she now walks with God and sees beauty that surpasses anything we can imagine.  I love you "Mom".  Thank you for all the love and kindness you have shown me over the years.  Thank you for living your life for God and sharing his love with so many others.  You are a blessing.
"Very truly I tell you, whoever hears my word and believes him who sent me has eternal life 
and will not be judged but has crossed over from death to life."
John 5:24
(I am so glad Mom will never know the truth about the things that have happened.  I think it would have crushed her spirit.  
She had such a strong faith and was true to her calling.  She did her best to instill this faith, peace and hope into all those around her.  I guess to describe her I would say pure and faithful.  A beautiful Christian woman. What a great legacy to leave for those she loved)
KathieyV:-)

Monday, July 20, 2015

Monday Morning Motivation "TAKE" (Trust, Act, Kneel, Encourage) David Anderson

I love my Sunday mornings.  I do not have a home church as of yet so I grab my coffee and note pad and listen to a sermon via podcast.  The last two weeks I have listened to services from Bridgeway Church in Maryland.  The pastor both times has been David Anderson...I really like him.
He starts his sermon by quoting a man that just faced down a bear.
"Man or beast that I run from ain't been born yet"

I wish I was as brave as Carl but I am not.  I have fears and worries.  I want to be brave and face each day confident that God walks beside me and is in control, and I do 90% of the time.  How do I maintain this confidence 100% of the time?  I think I need to follow David Anderson's advice.  He said we need to develop a courageous heart.  We need to take courage.  He says we can do this in 4 ways.
"Take"
*T-Trust that God is in control. (I remind myself of that constantly)
*A-Act courageously to do what must be done. (I am trying to get all the things I need to do completed)
*K-Kneel before God and claim his promises. (I don't always kneel but I do pray)
*E-Encouage yourself. (For me that means devotional time, music and enjoying life)

Wait on the Lord; be of good courage, and he shall strengthen thine heart; wait, I say, on the Lord.
Psalm 27:14
KJV
So that is our assignment for this day and for the rest of our lives.  Trust, act, kneel and encourage.  Good advice David.  Thank You!
Happy Monday Everyone 
KathieyV:-)

Friday, July 17, 2015

Things That Help Me Survive

In my opinion divorce is one of the most stressful times in a persons life.  I can only say that because I am experiencing it.  I never thought I would find myself in this situation having been married for 37 years and having a husband who was a pastor.  I didn't think it would happen to me but that just shows us we don't know what life holds.
That being said there are a few things that helped and continue to help me survive this life event.
*Exercise
     Exercise kept me going in the beginning.  Granted, I had to forced myself during the initial        depression but I am glad I did.  I love Zumba and it is a great workout.  I also like to hike and I am planning to get back into biking.  I just need to pull my bike out of the shed:-)
(Photo found on Pinterest)

*God;
     I don't know what I would have done without my faith.  It kept me going in the beginning and continues to give me strength.
(Photo found on Pinterest)

*Friends;
     In the beginning I reached out to everyone I could think of because I was emotionally dying.  They gave me hope and a diversion from the pain.  A few have stayed close and we enjoy fun times together.

*Adventures;
     Life is an adventure.  I try to go on every one I can find.

 *Nature/Beauty:
     There is nothing like finding the beauty of God that surrounds us even in our pain.  We can find it in a garden, on a hike, in a book, hidden in a movie, in a smile.  We just need to open our eyes to its presence.

I don't know where you are on your journey.  I don't know what types of joy and pain are part of your life.  All the things I have listed are great ways to enjoy life in the amazing times and in the difficult times.  I suggest you incorporate them into you life.
Please comment on ways you have found to get through the painful times in life.
Remember God's Promise
"I will never leave you or forsake you"
KathieyV:-)

Sunday, July 12, 2015

Monday Morning Motivation.."Complete in Christ". The Pain The Journey The Joy

The Pain
I have heard divorce described in may ways.  It has been said to be like... 
A death 
An Amputation 
Paralysis
Agony 

The ways I have described it are... 
Like a Death but with Intent
Excruciatingly Painful
A Searing of Ones Heart and Soul
Emotionally Scarring
The Murder of a Family.

I listened to a sermon today by David Anderson Bridgeway Church in Maryland.  The message was about being complete in Christ regardless of our circumstances.  It seems whenever I listen to a sermon about difficulties it tends to include divorce, that just shows you how devastating it can be.  He grouped together, unwanted pregnancies, addictions, death, career loss, accidents, health issues and yes divorce.  

"And I am certain that God, who began the good work within you, will continue his work 
until it is finally finished on the day when Christ Jesus returns."

Philippians 1:6
NLT
The Journey
The knowledge that I have all I need through my faith. 
I remind myself of that daily.
 I trust that God will turn the bad around for good in someway.
The journey is not an easy one but so worth it.  It took me a while to realize that.
Maybe good will come in the ability to help others on the same path.
That is my hope and that too would be my joy

The Joy
Erica, Steph, Josh and Caleb
Brodie
My friends that are my joy and my support.
My job.
My future church family (waiting on God for that one:-)
Laughter, similes.
The beauty of God that surrounds us even in our pain. 
"Dear Lord, thank you for a wonderful week.  I thank you for my family and friends.  I am so glad that I am complete in You if I just hold onto You.  Thank you that you forgive me for my many shortcomings and that you guide me on my path.  Please use me to help those around me.  Amen."
Happy Monday Everyone!
Enjoy Your World:-)
KathieyV:-)

Friday, July 10, 2015

Divorce, The Journey...."Just do it" The House

Divorce is all incompassing.  Responsibilities that were once shared by two are now on the shoulders of one.  Even though many chores may seem small to some, they become mountains to those of us on an emotional rollercoaster.  That being said, we have to realize challenges don't go away if we ignore them.  Lets start with a small issue...
I have a few tools in my arsenal.  I have a hammer, a tape measure, and a flat head screwdriver.  I can never find them when I need them because I have no idea where I left them.
When I received my new vacuum cleaner and I could not find the proper tool to put it together  I decided to do something about it so I would be prepared next time.
The challenge...             Nice new vacuum
 ...No way to put it together:-(
The solution......Stock up to complete this task and to prepare for future undertakings.
So off I went to Amazon, (I get free shipping:-)
First I need a place to put my tools so I can always find them, a tool box.
Now for some tools.....Screwdrivers.  I needed the Philips head.
I decided to get a few other things to fill my tool box.  Things I have needed over the last 2 years and because I did not have them I either did not start the job or I made do without them.
A Utility Knife.  I have been using my steak knives to cut things other then steak so this was needed and less then $5.00.
A flash light because I don't have one.  The other night during a severe thunder storm the lights were flickering on and off.  When the lights did go out I tried to use my cell phone but that was like holding up a match.  I did manage to light some candles.  

I had to get Caleb the Silly Robot Flash Light...
Last but not least I got an electric cordless screwdriver.  I had wished I had one of these several times and because I did not a few jobs were not done...
Now I am ready for anything right?  Well maybe not anything but I can get some jobs done that need doing.  I was tempted to try to put the handle on the vacuum with the flat head screwdriver but I want  do it right so I wait for my Philips head.

If you, like me, get overwhelmed with the responsibilities of life, I find if you take a deep breath and focus on one job at a time it  becomes a bit easier.  I think if we push through we can surprise ourselves with the work we can get done on jobs both large and small
Hang in there guys.  We can do this.
God Bless!
KathieyV:-)

Sunday, July 5, 2015

Sunday Song by Danny Gokey - Hope In Front of Me

This song incorporates "The Pain, The Journey, and The Joy" and in all things gives hope.
"There's hope in front of me
There's a light, I still see it
There's a hand still holding me
Even when I don't believe it"
Danny Gokey
The people in this video hold up signs that describe their life in that moment.  Failure, Abused, Addict, and Victim (of disease, depression, fear, violence, divorce and the list could go on and on).  Here is the sign I would put up...
Although all these things and others may be true in our lives it does not have to completely define us.
Yes we struggle through the pain and can learn from it.  Like Danny says, God is our hope and he holds us in all situations.
"Dear God,
Strengthen us in our difficulties.  Help us to grasp your hope with both hands 
and give the same hope back to others we meet on our path.
Amen."
KathieyV:-)

Thursday, July 2, 2015

Embracing Being Single


“Single” is an opportunity to live life on your own terms and not apologize.” 

Mandy Hale


I recently heard a sermon on embracing your singleness and I have decided to do just that.  There is no way I could have embraced being single in the beginning.  Being thrown away is traumatic.  After 2 years I am ready to try.
Just think about it....
I no longer have to work to be accepted for who I am.  I embrace who I am.
Realizing "I am good enough" is an amazing thing.
My home is peaceful.  Brodie never complains:-)
I am enjoying being with friends and making new friends.
I trust God to help me down my new path.  I know He will never throw me away.
I enjoy Zumba and no one makes fun of me.
I will travel, even if its just local.
I am enjoying working on my book and my blogs.
I now have a calling to do my best, through social media and hopefully through an eventual church family, to tell my story, and help others going through the difficulties of separation and divorce.  There are many of us & I embrace the opportunity.


Don't get me wrong.  This is far from an easy process.  There are many challenges that leave me overwhelmed. I still have the physical symptoms from the emotional trauma. I have a long way to go on the road to healing and I never would have chosen this for my family.  When you have no choice in what life or people throw at you the only thing you can do is look for the good that still remains.  For me that means embracing what I have and doing everything in my power to enjoy my life and live it the best way I can for God.

"Be strong and courageous!  Do not fear or tremble before them, for the Lord your God
is the one who is going with you.  He will not fail you or abandon you!"
Deut 31:6
NET Bible